As a proud mother of the bride and groom (and soon to be again!), I've come to realise that dressing for this special occasion involves more than just finding the perfect outfit. It’s about embracing tradition, understanding personalities, and respecting personal preferences. Weddings today can take many forms, from formal ceremonies in grand venues to intimate registry events or casual backyard barbecues with close family. Each celebration varies in budget and level of dress, whether it be cocktail attire, formal wear, or a garden-themed gathering. All are beautiful occasions that reflect our children’s unique personalities and preferences, making them even more special.
On this momentous day, we witness our incredible children embarking on a new life with someone they love, often planning their future family together. As mothers, we experience a whirlwind of emotions—immense pride in their accomplishments and a bittersweet recognition that our role in their lives is evolving. We find ourselves in middle age, typically between 45 and 65, pondering our next chapter while wanting to celebrate our children’s love.
The wedding day is an opportunity not only to join in the celebration but also to showcase our confidence and self-assurance. We want to wear outfits that are respectful to the bride and groom while exuding style and personality. However, I’ve noticed that many mothers of the bride and groom feel bound by unwritten rules regarding what to wear. While it’s important to consider the couple's preferences, there should still be room for personal expression.
Here are some key points to keep in mind when choosing your outfit:
1. Think About Colour
When selecting an outfit, consider how it will appear in photos. These images will become cherished memories, so you want to choose colours that blend well without overshadowing the bridal party. If bridesmaids are in pale pink, for instance, opting for a soft blue or green can create harmony. Avoid eye-popping colours like red or orange, which may draw attention away from the couple. Finding that sweet spot where you are neither a wallflower nor detracting from the main event is vital.
2. Prioritise Comfort
By our midlife years, we often find that our feet aren’t as forgiving about wearing high heels as they once were. Thankfully, there are many beautiful options available that feature lower heels while still looking elegant. Choosing comfortable yet stylish footwear will allow you to enjoy the day fully and dance the night away with ease.
Many of us also like to create smooth lines, so considering underwear is essential. Invest in undergarments that make you feel comfortable throughout the day—not just for tummy and butt support, but ones that allow you to eat, dance, and have fun. Look for truly comfortable Spanx and bras that will keep you feeling good all night without discomfort or feeling sick.
3. Consider Versatility
Investing in an outfit that you can wear again is always wise. Reflect on the dress or suit you’re considering and think about other events in your calendar where it might shine. One of my dresses saw significant use at casual weddings, while another remains unworn since the big day. However, the shoes and handbag I paired with both have proven to be versatile staples in my wardrobe.
4. Embrace your role as a proud mother
Many mothers feel uncertain about what they should wear. Remember, there are no strict rules—it largely depends on the wedding's style, but ultimately, you must stay true to yourself. Take advice from others but trust your instincts to choose something that feels authentic and comfortable.
Enjoy the journey leading up to the wedding day, and if you need assistance, we at Zoe Clare would love to help you navigate this exciting experience!
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